Month: December 2019

Get up, get out, and get happy. Experts say that even if you have to fake it, you’ll soon be merry — or at least a little happier.
People can have a good reason to be wistful or even blue at the holidays. Family members are not always near, or physical conditions can limit activities.
Strange that just when we can’t remember where we put the car keys, memories from 30 years ago are accessible in every detail. It’s great to remember the good times, but to be happy today we need to stay in the present.
According to happiness guru Gretchen Rubin, the key is to actively plan for holidays and make new memories. Here are some ideas:

• Consider some things you have loved: Songs, gift-giving, family. Start asking around early for churches that have carols and holiday activities. If you need a ride, ask at the church office.
• Find out who needs a gift and give it!
• Gather your own ‘family’ of neighbors and friends for a pitch-in dinner. It doesn’t have to be on Dec. 25.
  The bottom line: Make a plan and get out of the house.
  Do ask others about their plans; people often love to share holidays.
  Be grateful for the holiday you make for yourself. Don’t compare this holiday to happier times in the past and try not to compare this holiday to the one you imagined it would be. Create something for yourself and enjoy it, whether it is a modest decoration and dinner with a friend, or an all-out bash.

From November to January, we have a pleasant, and sometimes hectic, list of things to do and people to see. It’s a bit of a roller coaster, but I hope you all manage to enjoy the ride.
And, I hope you do it with safety in mind. Shorter days, perhaps bad weather and slippery roads can all get in the way of our rush to finish our holiday plans. Patience, my friends. Let’s all see the new year in with health and happiness.
It seems such a short time ago that we were talking about our plans for 2019. Now, we are in the last phase of the year and rushing to the finish line. The year’s not quite over, however, so the work done between today and New Year’s Day will count and count a lot. Thank you for all your good humor and good work.
We can all be thankful for the many blessings of our work, homes, and holidays.
So to all: Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, and Happy New Year!

For those caught up in the buying frenzy of the holidays, Christmas Eve could find them with a handful of change in their pockets and little else.
Of course, every year you think you’ll avoid the rush by accumulating gifts throughout the year. That would be smart, but it doesn’t do much good in November and December and the shopping list looms.
A survey by The Wall Street Journal shows that more of us are controlling credit card debt by adopting new traditions that reduce the loot under the tree.
Women do most of the Christmas shopping, says Eileen Fischer of York University in Canada, who studies consumer behavior. They give gifts to reinforce relationships with spouses, kids, in-laws, co-workers, friends and helpers.
Here is some classic advice on keeping your holidays affordable:

1. If you have a multitude of relatives to buy for, talk with them about exchanging cards this year. They will be happy to do it in most cases.
2. Decide in advance how much you will spend on gifts.
3. Give gift certificates to teens. They keep you within your specific amount, and teens enjoy shopping.
4. Skip the stocking stuffers.
5. Shop with a specific list, especially online where easy clicks add up to big money.
6. Don’t buy for yourself at the same time. Stick to the project.
7. Financial advisor Jane Bryant Quinn says: Add up your consumer debt and write the number at the top of your shopping list or computer.
8. An advantage of buying less: Less time spent opening gifts. It can drag on and on for a large group.
   The holidays are more joyful when you know you can pay the bills as they arrive in January.

Christmas shopping is here and your kids will want to be part of it. It’s a good time for a little value teaching.
Help your child make out a list of people and consider what gifts are within a budget you have set.
For younger kids, try shopping in real stores with real cash. One of the best ways to teach money management is to give them some money to handle. They can shop for gifts, while keeping track of the money left for the next gift.
It is never too early to start teaching your child about money. The best time to begin talking to children about money is when they start asking for things. Even a 5-year-old demanding a toy can be taught the value of money and the cost of things. He can also be taught that he has an option to save the money instead.
Your daily routine provides many opportunities for lessons. Talk about how you spend and save money. Show them your grocery list and explain why it is a good idea to make a list. Show
them how a debit card works, being sure to point out that the money is subtracted immediately from your bank account.
Linking an allowance to chores depends on parental goals. If the goal is to teach the child how to manage his money, it is best not to link the work with the money; if the goal is to teach that some things must be earned, an allowance paid for chores could help in that lesson.